Parenting Highly Sensitive Children

Sensitive + Intuitive + Introverted + Anxious


Is your child Highly Sensitive? Here are 32 attributes to consider, they may have one to two that are extreme or several to many.

Highly Sensitive Children tend to:

  • Feel like they’re different than others.

  • Feel deeply and tend to be more emotionally responsive.

  • Prefer to exercise alone.

  • Struggle to make decisions (weighing all the options).

  • Pay attention to subtlety and small details in general.

  • Be highly conscientious which could result in them being highly well mannered.

  • Be prone to having anxiety or depression especially if they've had previous bad experiences.

  • Have difficulty listening to or watching stories about violence or somebody getting hurt.

  • Work well in certain team environments, however they like to work alone.

  • Startle easily and don’t enjoy surprising situations.

  • Be sensitive to and aware of their clothing textures, scratchy seams, and are more aware of pain.

  • Be sensitive to being touched.

  • Have a hard time going to sleep after an exciting, stressful or busy day.

  • Not do well with big changes.

  • Notice subtleties (something that’s been moved, a change in a person’s appearance, etc.)

  • Consider if it is safe before climbing high.

  • Perform best when strangers aren’t present.

  • Feel things deeply.

  • Prefer to have deep discussions than make small talk.

  • Notice distress in others.

  • Not be able to focus in noisy places or may be bothered by them.

  • Be a deep thinker who needs time to process.

  • Learn better from a gentle correction than strong punishment.

  • Not like to pick up or talk on the phone, especially if they don’t know who is calling.

  • Have little or no interest in doing extra-curricular activities, like sports or an art class and prefer quiet-play.

  • Be intuitive or seem to know what you’re thinking/read your mind.

  • Think differently than others at an early age, may use big words for their age.

  • Be sensitive to light or very slight smells.

  • Not like to be wet or sandy.

  • Ask a lot of deep, thought-provoking questions.

  • Tend to be perfectionistic.

  • Have a clever sense of humor.

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— -Nina C. Deephaven, MN

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~Kerrie E. Burnsville, MN